Urban Warrior Inspirational Blog

Can we manage strees?

DENIS — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 10:57:18 +0000

Stress is not coming from outside. Stress is our reaction to a situation.
If we don’t want stress, what do we want?
What is it that we really want instead? Is it peace, calm, joy, focus???
As long as we focus on what we don’t want, we generate more of the same.
All the tricks and tips about stress management (eat healthy, have exercise, don’t abuse coffee, alcohol, sleep well…) can help but if it does not start with being back in touch with our inner power, it does not work.
We need to change our believes about ourselves, about how we react to events and situations.
Most of our stress is connected to negative believes that we keep consciously or not in deep drawers of our mind.
If we believe that our stress is coming from outside, we have no power and we are a sort of victim.
Usually, we will be irritable and aggressive towards other drivers for example when we are not in peace with ourselves: if we are frustrated and unhappy.
When it is a good day and we are happy, our reaction is so different. We can cope with so many things, keeping our cool and inner tranquility.

If you want to manage your stress, identify what you really want instead, and work on that specific state.

Denis Gorce-Bourge MPMANLP,-MNHSTA-MBACPSL
International Coach and Trainer
Specialist in Stress Management
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©GBlifecoaching 2009 Denis Gorce-Bourge

The realist and thoptimist

DENIS — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 08:08:47 +0000

Story in 1 chapter

2 people are walking on a little route in the midle of the beautiful countryside.

They’re sharing there views on the landscape.

One of them is telling how beatiful it is and how lucky they are to be in such a beautiful environment.

The other one, tired of listening to those comments starts talking and says: « You’re such an optimist. You’re an idealist. It’s all gray and dusty, there’s almost no life. How can you tell me that it is beautiful? »

Moral of this story: The second person is looking down on the walkway and the other one is looking up and enjoys the landscape.

Question: Would it be possible that in fact realists and optimists are not looking or not seing the same things?

Little story from an optimist very interested in the realists…

The power of visualization

DENIS — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 11:17:21 +0000

You can be in the tube or the bus and go for an inner trip in the deep regions of your imagination. In Japan, they have what they call Forest Therapy to fight the urban stress.They bring people in forest to recharge and relax.Simply imagine that you are walking in a fantastic forest. You decide if you are walking on a path or not, how wide it is, the kind of weather, the season, the kind of forest…You then make contact with each of your senses. You visualize the surrounding, the silence, the birds singing, the smell of moss, how it feels under your feet…You can spend your all trip in a much better place. You can just cool down, relax and enjoy an intimate moment with yourself in the comfort of your inner world.Just try it and enjoy. Le pouvoir de visualization Vous pouvez être dans le métro ou le bus et partir pour un voyage intérieur dans les profondes régions de votre imagination. Au Japon, ils ont ce qu’ils appellent la Thérapie de la foret pour combattre le stress urbain. Ils emmènent les gent dans les forets pour les recharger et les détendre.Imaginez simplement que vous marchez dans un foret magnifique. Vous décidez si vous marchez sur un chemin ou pas, la largeur de ce chemin, le temps qu’il fait, la saison, de quelle sorte de foret il s’agit…Vous vous mettez ensuite en contact avec chacun de vos sens. Vous visualisez ce qui vous entoure, le silence, le chant des oiseaux, l’odeur de la mousse, la sensation de marcher…Vous pouvez passer tout votre voyage dans un endroit beaucoup plus agréable. Vous pouvez vous détendre, profiter d’un moment intime avec vous-même dans le confort de votre monde intérieur.Essayez et profitez.

To bark or not to bark, that is the question

DENIS — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 12:23:56 +0000

Most of aggressive behaviors are the expression of frustration, unhappiness and some kind of misery.
When you have such a person beside you in the train, in the bus or driving a car on the road, you have the choice of answer.
You can be aggressive back, you can start your day accordingly to this person and spread anger around you later at the office.
You can as well look at this person with compassion or at least awareness of what’s happening. You can ignore the fact and stay away not to contribute with your own frustration.
I am not saying that it is easy to change reaction and to have control. The fact is that if you can not control the person around you, you have the choice and power to control yourself.

Aboyer ou ne pas aboyer en retour

La plupart des comportements agressif sont l’expression de frustration, tristesse et une sorte de misere.
Lorsque vous etes confrontes a une telle personne dans le train, le bus ou sur la route, vous avez le choix de la reponse.
Vous pouvez etre agressif en retour, vous pouvez demarrer votre journee au diapason de cette agressivite et cultiver la rage autour e vous, plus tard au bureau.
Vous pouvez aussi regarder cette personne avec de la compassion ou au moins une conscience de ce qui se passe. Vous pouvez ignorer et rester a distance afin de ne pas contribuer avec votre propre frustration.
Je ne dis pas que c’est facile de changer de reaction et de garder le controle. Le fait est que si vous ne pouvez pas controler les gens autour d vous, vous avez le choix et le pouvoir de rester en controle de vous meme.

Denis Gorce-Bourge MPMANLP, MNHSTA
Psychotherapist & life Coach
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©GBlifecoaching 2006-2008 Denis Gorce-Bourge

Life Coaching Circle

DENIS — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 12:35:17 +0000

Life Coaching Circle How about making a move in the right direction? Come to a monthly session of the Life Coaching Circle to improve your strength and ability to deal with difficulties. The Life Coaching Circle is two and a half hours of mentoring, help and discussion in a small group (maximum 12). It is a space where you can feel safe and confident to share your feelings and learn practical tools to improve your life. There are break-out sessions for exercises and discussions (sub-groups of three people). The Life Coaching Circle is run by Denis Gorce-Bourge, Professional Psychotherapist and Life Coach. Denis has worked as a therapist for 15 years and has the ability to help people in a respectful, ethical way. He specialises in stress and self image issues, as well as emotional and spiritual questions, and is accredited with many respected therapy associations. Denis has recently finished writing a book about Coaching Strategies, which is soon to be published. The Life Coaching Circle runs every second Saturday of the month, from 2.00 to 4.30pm, at two minutes walk from the London Bridge tube station. The next meeting of the Life Coaching Circle is on Saturday 11^th October at 2.00pm. One session per month is only £28 and rest assured that you will benefit from this interactive, welcoming environment with other wonderful human beings. Bookings are essential so please call 07815844134 or email admin@gblifecoaching.com to secure your place. I look forward to meeting you!Denis Gorce-Bourge MPMANLP, MNHSTA
Psychotherapist & Life Coach
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Who are those people?

DENIS — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 08:45:47 +0000

Who are those people? Why do they act like this?What do they have in mind?What do they need to believe to act this way?I am talking about those people driving crazy, acting as if they would own the road.They are the new Cowboys…Who are they? What kind of life do they have? They are affirming something with their comportment.I would like to believe that they are going to change because they’re young and stupid???Why should I bother? Just ignore them and act precisely as if they would be naughty kids with big dangerous toys. Stay as much as possible away from them and do not be upset. Do not ruin your day for someone who does not care.Don’t punish yourself being aggressive towards them.Breathe with your tummy and relax. Let it go and leave them what belongs to them.Do not play their game.Life is too short to raise your blood pressure for them.

De quelle maniere la nature humaine deviendra une bonne Nature ?

DENIS — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 07:35:20 +0000

De quelle manière la nature humaine deviendra une bonne Nature ? Chaque jour est un jour nouveau, une nouvelle opportunité d’essayer encore, de faire mieux, de partager plus de notre meilleur et de laisser aller la crasse.Chaque jour est une nouvelle chance de ne pas faire la même chose et de ne pas répéter ce que l’on voulait changer hier.Aujourd’hui est une réelle opportunité. Chaque minute de cette page blanche est notre responsabilité et notre réalisation ce soir en allant nous coucher.Le monde aujourd’hui est le résultat de toutes les énergies individuelles, actions et décisions prises par chacun.Gandhi disait : « Vous devez être le changement que vous voulez voir dans le monde ».

How will Human kind become Kind Human?

DENIS — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 07:34:17 +0000

Every day is a new day, a new opportunity to try again, to do better, to share more of the best and let go of the dirt.Every day is a new chance to not do the same and not repeat what we wanted to change yesterday.Today is a real opportunity. Every minute of this white page will be our responsibility and our achievement tonight when we’ll go to bed.The world today is the result of all those individual energies, actions and decisions.Gandhi said: “You must be the change you want to see in the world”.

Contribuez a une jungle urbaine plus civilisee

DENIS — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 08:43:09 +0000

Avez-vous note comme souvent vous laissez le passage en conduisant, vous laissez le passage a l’entrée d’un magasin, vous laissez le passage sur le trottoir et vous n’êtes même pas calcule et bien sur remercie ?S’il vous plait, remerciez-les. Dites merci. Reconnaissez le fait qu’ils vous honorent en acceptant que vous leur laissiez le passage…Enfin, nous sommes nés pour laisser le passage a cette espèce supérieure dans la jungle urbaine qui pense qu’il est normal de les laisser passer et d’attendre que leur seigneurie soit passée. Contribuons a rendre notre ville un endroit plus civilise et remercions les systématiquement.Je fais cela tout le temps et parfois, je perçois une lumière au fond de leur yeux me disant… »QUOIIIII ? » ou « pourquoi Y dit merci ? », ou « … » !!!Le pire qui pourrait arriver serait pour les gens qui normalement remercie et agissent de manière civilisée, sourient et laissent passer d’arrêter de le faire.Comme Gandhi le disait, « œil pour œil rendra le monde entier aveugle ».

Contribute to a more civilized urban jungle

DENIS — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 08:42:03 +0000

Have you noticed how often you give way driving, you give way at a shop door, you give way on the pavement and you are not even acknowledge or even of course thanked?Please say thank you to them. Say thank you. Acknowledge the fact that they honor you in accepting you to give them way…Come on, we are born to give way to this superior specie of people in the urban jungle that assume that it’s normal to give them way and wait for their highness to pass. Let contribute to make this place a more civilized place and let thank them systematically. I do this all the time and sometimes, I find a light in the bottom of their eye, telling me either, “WHOTTT?” or “why does he thank me?”, or “…”!!!The worse that could happen is for people who normally thank and act in a civilized way, smile and give way to stop doing it.As Gandhi said, “an eye for an eye will make the whole world go blind”.